Through the looking glass

Selection Theory
Had a really interesting soci tutorial today..The presenting group did a fantastic job and made the class highly engaging. Sides it was about friendship,something that always fascinates adn appeals to me. Coz i think its an indispensable aspect of my life.
How do we form friends...is it a matter of 'birds of a feather flock together' or 'opposites attract'...
what exactly is tht 'chemistry' that brings and keeps people together...even the most unlikely and mismatched candidates bridge their differences by building a wonderful bond. Its beautiful as a phenomenon.
Of coz there's a whole lot of sociological and psychosociological theory involved,which i will not go into..this isnt a mini soci tutorial!

"Each to each a looking-glass
Reflects the other that doth pass"

But just stuff to ponder on...How do we make friends...do we consciously choose/select/deselect or does it just happen?
How is it some ppl naturally gravitate towards one another,while others get "keep away" signals from a mile away??
And what if this initial ' keep away' vibe is really just a misguided 1st impression and what if negative perceptions change to become positive over time?
With others...its a matter of circumstances, sometimes ur even forced to become acquainted due to circumstances, the way i ended up sitting next to my fungi friend in class..we both hated it and never thouhgt we'd stick it out. She hated me coz she thought i was a spoilt brat, i guess i was, and i wasnt exactly in awe of her either, to put it mildly. Thought she as a bossy chatterbox who clndt sew to save her life - (well neither can i...but thts another matter!) I spent much of my home econs lesson wondering why this strange girl was sewing a witch on her pouch and upon completion,when she proudly declared it was michael jackson - THE michael jackson, i nearly flipped. Trust me, his downfall and defamation started right there, with that pouch and in that Sec 1 home econs embroidery class.
In sec 3, We just sat next to each other coz we were both stubborn donkeys with too mch ego and pride - And look where that lead us..a 10 year friendship that just gets better with time.I always wonder what would have happened if we had given in and sat elsewhere - i dont really want to know.
And yoga...i still remember how i used to be soo intimidated by her- not coz she was intellectual or anything mind you, far from it!she used to scare me with her corny jokes, which i assure you i dreaded coz i DID NOT GET THEM and i dindt find em funny...but i felt stupid coz i thought i was supposed to find them funny and something was wrong with me/ i just didnt get it *sheesh, i really was stupid back then!* so yea..then cmae the one big day tht broke the ice - iceberg rather - when she told me about the hit and run accident whereby a bicycle or something hit her, adn she got up and ran (ie: hit and run) - coz she didnt want to be booked for jay walking.That cracked me up.And i'd never have thought tht particularly day would have played such a big role in my life coz i ended up spending 4 precious yrs of uni life with her, and she's never failed to crack me up since ( and thts somethnig thts kept me going)... and of coz the rest is history.
Friendships based on Similarities, Bonds tht bridge Completely opposite and yet complimentary characteristics/personalities,friends that uve known since u can remember, friends formed with the bat of an eyelid, u dont know how nad when exactly it happened but it did and its every bit a blessing.Friends you meet every day, friends you dont have to meet and yet theyre always there in spirit,friends youve never even met and yet ur able to call him/her 'my friend' and smile about it.
The friends who appear from nowhere,and remind you that theyre there even when you forget...
Just when u thought u were all alone - u realise that youre not alone afterall- or maybe everybody else is, essentially alone, and in that way, nobody's ever really is...Im not making much sense anymore am i?

"You know that place between asleep and awake? Where you still remember dreaming? That's where I will always think of you." -Tinkerbell

I can keep going with unnamed friends - unlikely candidates,uncanny circumstances and unexpectedly desirable consequences...I beleive in divine intervention. I strongly beleive ppl come into our lives fr a reason...and If/when they leave or stay there's also a reason....its meant to be.
Perhaps its all part of a big plan unknown to us...but with the passing of time , it unfolds slowly and things get a bit clearer. Like the pieces of a puzzle coming together to form the big picture - Its a very slow process involving change,growth,pain,loss,gain.....but watching it fall into place is like a watching a caterpillar morphing into a butterfly...we never really will know the value of exactly what goes on in the process. but the end product, is a miracle.
True friends are a handful, but that's coz one always needs to be able to count his/her blessings.

"I do believe I know most of the best people in the world and you've all made my life livable..."
And here's one for the linguists :

The language of friendship is not words , but rather meanings . It is an intelligence above language." -Thoreau